Going through a separation is an incredibly stressful and anxious period for anyone, let alone when there are children involved and you still have to interact with your ex-partner on a regular basis.
Here are our top tips for making the process a little less frustrating:
1. Set routines and boundaries early
It’s important to set stable routines and boundaries as early as possible.
Try and establish a routine for time with each parent and phone calls that won’t interfere with the daily schedule in either household.
Whilst day-to-day arrangements might be easier in the short term they will usually result in both parties feeling like their time with the children is inconsistent, limited and often interrupted by the other party.
Regular time arrangements not only provide stability for the kids but also result in each parent feeling less frustrated and controlled by the other.
2. Communicate Mindfully
The key to positive co-parenting is effective communication.
Always try to pause and think carefully about what you are going to say before any communication, as often things said in the heat of the moment only serve to further escalate the conflict between parents.
If possible, try to communicate in writing (eg text, email) rather than during a phone call, as it will be clearer and easier for everyone if there is a written record of what has been said.
Sometimes using a parenting app specifically tailored for co-parenting also makes communication more effective and positive whilst making it easier to keep a record of your communications with the other parent.
3. Get advice from the right people
Whilst it is important to be supported through a separation, it is imperative that you have good advice from the right people to avoid making mistakes regarding parenting issues.
Family and friends are wonderful emotional supports, but may not be in the best position to provide you with the advice you really need. Seeking early legal advice from a good family lawyer about your options and rights is the best place to start.
There are also several agencies now offering courses in dealing with co-parenting conflict that can assist you with methods of dealing with conflict and how to encourage a more positive co-parenting relationship.
Need Family Law Advice? Contact Us
The Family Law Team at Hede Byrne and Hall offers a wealth of experience in dealing with parenting issues, with caring and supportive lawyers operating across our Toowoomba, Warwick and Roma offices.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us if you think we may be able to assist you with your family law matters today or in the future.
